What I need Diaries for

Guess what - there is a reason why this blog is called The Infamous Diaries! First is obviously because I am infamously infamous. Haha. Second has something to do with diaries. Because - if there is something like that - I am a diary-addict. I have little Notebooks for everything. It's kinda wonderful to have your whole life organized in books and boxes. And there is rarely anything so touching as reading your diary - the one you wrote in 6th grade when you had this huge crush on the guy from 8th grade.

 Sooo here are some inspirations, what you can keep diaries aka notebooks for:

1. Journal
The most famous kind of diary. Write down your thoughts and dark secrets. Start with "Dear Diary..." or simly the date. It's so much fun to re-read you thoughts even a few weeks later. Also it helped me to cope with fights or even breakups because I could recapture the good times and all that cheesy stuff. 

Important: Don't feel like you have to write every day! Feel free to write whenever you feel like it.I have gaps of a few month in mine. Also it's okay to have blank pages. All of the notbooks found filled by Marilyn Monroe weren't finished ;)

 

2. Daily Calendar

 Probably the most popular form of notebook. Scedule your homework, jobbing, appointments and all other kinds of dates. I also store my timetable for school, To Do-lists, pictures of loved ones and a bunch of inspirational quotes in there.

3. Scetchbook

 For the artsy ones this is a great opportunity to have not only your scribbels and doodles in one place but also collect inspirational pictures from e.g. magazines.

4. Travel Journal

Or basically one for any other special thing you love. My fave notebook-brand Moleskine designed a lot of journals for any specific need and as I am kind of a globetrotter I love my travel journal!

So...what do you use your notebooks for? Any new inspirations? Shoot in the comments!

xoxo V

Thumbs up for Ellen Page!

 “I feel a personal obligation and a social responsibility. I also do it selfishly, because I am tired of hiding and I am tired of lying by omission.”

26 year old Juno-star wow-ed me with an literally breathtaking speach past valentines day. Even before her outing half through the speech I was fascinated by how good she could put my thoughts in words. I just had to share what she has to say with all of you.

"This world would be a whole lot better if we would just make an effort to be less horrible to one another!"

Her speech doesn't only affect the special or different ones among us. It affects every single one of us, as we all want the world to be a better, loving place. Take the time, she's really worth it!

 

 

"What I have learned is that love - the beauty of it, the joy of it and yes, even the pain of it - is the most incredible gift to give, to recieve as a human being. And we deserve to recieve love fully, equally, without shame and without compromise!"

Lots of Love, V

The Happiness Project - Spread the Happiness!

I'm so excited! Seconds ago I finished my first ever YouTube-Video. My cause? A project! I was incredibly nervous, I hope it doesn't show too much.

In the german facebook community there's a game going around called "Halbe exen gegen Lernstress". It's about uploading a video in which you drink half a liter of beer. (I know, right?) So after I saw a friend of mine donating to the Philippines instead of drinking I thought that was something that should be spread! So I'll make a start!


Watch and learn:

So, what do you think? I hope I find a lot of happiness-spreaders among you! Here some of my ideas how to spread a little happiness:

• Write a nice letter.
• Clean your parents car.
• Bake a cake. Or brownies. Or something else.
• Donate something. Anything.
• Pass a compliment to every person you meet. 

Most important: film yourself doing it! Upload it to facebook and nominate three other friends to Spread the Happiness!

If you want to see your video on this blog just put #tidhappy in the description of your movie. Can't wait to see them all!

...because a smile is the prettiest thing you can wear!

xoxo V

Why it was Mila Cunis who ruined our Generation.

To be clear: I adore Mila Cunis, she's one of the most beautiful actress of our time. But:

In the year of 2011 Hollywood surprised us with two movies of a very similar kind. Let me tell you a story:

Boy meets girl. Both sick of relationships. Both suffer of a lack of sex. Both very attractive. What happens? They end up in bed. No feelings, just sex. In the end they get that they actually fell in love and live happily ever after. The End.

One motto, two movies. Great! Truth be told, I loved Friends with Benefits. Basically the tragedy of those movies are/where that they had happy ends where both inividuals ended up realizing that they where deeply in love with each other. So more and more friends of mine told me about exactly this scheme in their lives. And there's tragically often no happily ever after included. So now, three years later I look around me and what happend? There's nothing but a glimpse of serious realtionships around me anymore. WHERE HAS THE LOVE GONE?


How girls stumbled in to this:

#1 GIRLS THAUGHT

Maybe, when we start making out and spend enough time he'll realize how cool and nice I am. I just have to let him think I'm all cool about it!

#2 GIRLS THAUGHT

Ok, surprisingly I actually am quite cool with this...if only he'd call more often...oh look there goes my heart...oh shit!!

      And - whoop - there you go: what start's of all easy-peasy screws with your head and heart and everything within a wink. It begins with a lot of things like relizing that he or you are jealous. Or by having real fun with real conversations. By knowing each other like no one else. And everything is just so simple. The moment you realize this is the moment it becomes harder.  Neither do you know about his feelings or not feelings, let alone the chaos inside of you. You don't know what you're at. He know's you're easy to get so it's too late for playing games. 

      Ok, I get it. Sex is fun and your last relationship was bullshit so you don't wanna commit to anyone and stuff. But girls, here's what I learned: The feelings are going to come either way. And your life is no movie! Those movies may seem more realistic than Cinderella, but that still doesn't mean they have anything to do with reality. Guys can sleep with girls without comitting to any feelings, while girls - trust me on this - can't. This may not apply to "It happened once...or twice." And maybe it takes some time but it will happen. Even super-tough Anne Hathaway in Love and other Drugs gave up her heart.

     What I want are the cheesy lovestories. I want to tell my kids about romance like my parents told me: by telling the truth. I don't mean flowers and candlelight-dinner twice a week. I'm talking feelings. Truth. And knowing, what you're at. Either you sleep around - totally fine! Or go all in for the real deal. If you have an "open relationship" it's easy to analize: Open for me - relationship for you. Or the other way around. Either way, there's no truth in it.

Love, V

To all my girls out there!

 A truely inspiring poetry slam by a young student. It's so true!!
Enjoy!

xx V

Lesson of the Week: DREAM BIG

Since I was a little girl I've had two dreams:

1. New York City
2. A career in fashion business

It sounds like every other girls dream. Well, perhaps it actually is. But there's one important thing: I didn't stop dreaming. There's hardly anyone who know's me and hasn't heard me talk about at least one of both. There's been a lot of admiration for dreaming so huge but over the last few years I could feel more and more people deride me. I come from a city where one of the bestselling brands is Northface. Seriously?!

People are scared of dreaming big. It's the fear of being disappointed. The fear of the dream not coming true. If you don't shoot for the stars you'll never learn to fly. And perhaps for some people it's better to stand with both their feet on the ground walking straight forward. If it comes to me, I'm the one with the head in the clouds. If fallen on my nose quite much so, while aiming to fly. But I never stopped dreaming. Ever. And - believe it or not - seven month from now The Infamous Diaries are going to be updated live from the Big Apple! Right: my big - actually huge - dreams are about to come true. After hours of application writing and re-writing and translating my resumee and searching for adresses over and over again and writing tons of e-mails with the largest amount of concentration in fear of spelling mistakes... I had an interview for interning at a fashion company's PR department on tuesday - and got the job!!

So get excited for the most amazing posts AFTER graduation-exam-stress is actually over!

xoxo V

 

We love... Beginners

It's 2003. Oliver is 38, single. His dad recently died of cancer. When his Mom died 4 years ago his dad - Hal - announced, that he's gay. They've been married since 1955, that makes 44 years. 

Hal: I don't want to just be theoretically gay. I want to do something about it.

Is what he says. And he does! He joins all sort of gay-communities and even falls in love. This is something Oliver can't say of hisself so far. That changes in 2003, the moment he meets Anna.

Anna: You can ask me anything you want.
Oliver: Anything? What's there?
Anna: That's a tree. And Cars. Another building like this one. People in the building like us, half of them think it's never going to work out, the other half believe in magic. It's like a war between them.

Anna is from France. Anna's an actor. Anna's beautiful. Unusual. Inspirational. Lovable. Human. Their lovestory is no Hollywood-lovestory. It just walks through the movie. It's usual and easy - it feels real. You don't expect anything to happen or not to happen. You just let them live. Their story is told concurrently with Hal's last four years before he dies.
Also from time to time we learn more about Olivers mother. She seems weird. Embittered. Self-determined. Loving but cold. I like her. she's true to herself. She's sad. More - she's melancholic. But she's a good mother. She doesn't lock herself into her room to be sad. She carries her frustration outside, lives it. I like her.

          Oliver: Our good fortune allowed us to feel a sadness our parents never had time for. 

   The movie's great, because it feels so real. You crack up, listening to Oliver talking to his Jack Russel. Watching Hal being gay in all that he is. Being truly happy this late in life. And just when you crack up most - you want to cry. About Hal's death. The tragedy of the family. Life. Unlike to most of the movies these days you don't feel like you've read the script before. It's unexpected. Just like life's unexpected. And it hides a lot of wisdom. Little maxims hidden behind some corners. Generationconflicts not screaming for attention but nudging in you're head.

Top 5 remixes

I love remixes! If I find a song I like a lot I listen to it non stop for a few days. So if I find a good remix of it it's even greater because the song I've heard almost to death comes to life in a new way.

1. Youth - Daughter (Alle Farben Remix) by majestic

2. Skinny Love - Bon Iver (Moritz Guhlings Gefühls Remix)

3. Little Lion Man - Mumford and Sons (Monkey Safari)

4. Give Me One Reason - Tracy Chapman (The Tailors Djs Remix)

5. Home - Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros (FlicFlac & AirDice)

Enjoy!! xx V

Crocodiles kill you, people make mistakes

A girl I suppose I used to be friends with recently posted a quote. It said

"Crocodiles are easy. They try to kill and eat you. People are harder. Sometimes they pretend to be your friend first."

Why is this important to me? Because I'm people. Even though I don't aim to kill anyone nor eat somebody. Duh! 

I'm people because I'm the bitch. I'm the girl YOLOing and realizing that people can't except if you're not perfect. I'm not talking perfect as in beautiful and skinny. We had the kinda stuff at least once too much. I'm talking perfect as in making the right decisions. As in being 18 years old and suddenly mature. I'm talking perfect as in choosing the right guys and making sure not to hurt anyone you know.  

So, sorry I'm not perfect!

But at least I realize that. And even try to apologize. In my way. But sometimes even your friends don't get it. And so they talk. Because they love to talk. And so they get hurt. That's how I became a killer. Also that's how I learned that your friends are those who aren't okay with your actions but still stick to you. Thank you, friends! 

In some peoples eyes I may be the killer. In others I'm only an imperfect young woman trying to find happiness...

Top 5 series returning this fall

I am a total junkie when it comes to series. Sadly (or good for my summer) most of my fave series take a break over summer... so here are my top 5 series returning this fall and when!

#1 and best: How I met your mother! 
 Season nine - the FINAL season - is coming up on 23rd of September. I hardly ever met anybody who doesn't like this series. If you wouldn't like HIMYM that would mean you don't love Barney's pick up lines, Lily and Marshall's hilariously adorable relationship, Ted's desperate believe in true love and Robins self-protection sarcasm...and that's only a glimpse of the awesomeness!

#2 New Girl 

 One girl, three guys, one apartment in Chicago. It's Zooey Deschanels charming nivity combined Schmidts narcissism, Winstons lostness and Nicks total being out of everything. On the 17th of September we'll learn the development of Jess & Nick's love-life and a lot more...

#3 Vampire Diaries
 Twilight almost achieved that vampires and werewolves were oh-so-middle-school-groupie-ish. Almost! The best and only savior of the coolness as well as the sexiness of vampires and werewolves are the stunning Salvatorebrothers. On the 3rd of October there'll be more Vampire-Hybrid-Werwolve-Sex, more love, blood and mystries...

#4 The Carrie Diaries
 I've already mentioned this lovely prequel to the beloved Sex And The City-Series earlier this year. On 25th of October it returns for season 3!

#5 Awkward. 
 A show I aswell told you about before. Jenna featuring Matty, Tamara, Jake, Ming & Co. make us crack up beginning 22nd of October this month. It's obvi going to be amazeballs! You're welcome.

 Hope you're as excited as I am!

 

Kisses V

How to...make the perfect refreshing drink

We are all craving for refreshments these days. Summer sun heats us all up and we hide in the shade or at the lake. Because we all probably shouldn't eat too much ice cream and water tastes boring gradually here's a "How To..." on the best refreshment this summer! All natural, all fresh and absolutely delicious!

 All you need is:

2 Limes

Fresh Mint

Ice Cubes

Bubbly Water

Cut the Limes and blend them together with the Mint. Add the ice cubes in the mixer and blend again. Pour into glasses and add as much water as you want. 
Sweeten it up with lemon juice or use prosecco if you want some alcohol. 

Enjoy!

xxx V

The thing with examnesia

 I wish I could be 5 again. My biggest problems being the time I have to go to bed and how to count to 100. If I was 5 I would see the world as a playground. And I'd be shure that by the time I was seventeen I'd be all grown up and mature and cool and perfect. Also I'd be pretty, good at school and have a wonderful boyfriend (okay, that part's actually true).
 But I can't be my five-year-old self again. I'm seventeen. Maybe grown up, not mature and far from perfect. But I'm mostly happy. Until it comes to exams. I consider myself a great person. Really, I am quite confident and thankful for the great life I have. And I even consider myself quite intelligent. But then again, there are exams. My hands start to shake like crazy, my thoughts spin similar to a tornado and my legs feel like they're made of chewing gum. I feel like I can think of kinda anything I have ever learned. But nor of the answers for the questions the exam askes. I need to be put in a category, how good or bad a person I am seems to be equivalent to what grade I get. And I totally can't live with that! Why can't I just be seen as the person I am? Why can't my teachers take what I give them in class for the best they get? I even started doing homework in order to be better prepared. Didn't work. And why on earth can't it be enough for me to be a good driver in order to get my driver's license? I study hard, get all the answers right. Until I sit in the room with 15 others and fell like there's no air. So what is it? What is it that makes my brain blend every time I truly need it? I don't know. What I know is that when it comes to examnesia I'm probably the best example.

Kisses V

We Love... (500) Days of Summer

"This is a story of boy meets girl."

Kinda. Well isn't that more or less any random story? Boy meets girl and everything all over again So what's so special about this one? 

"The boy, Tom Hansen of Margate, New Jersey, grew up believing that he'd never truly be happy until the day he met the one. This belief stemmed from early exposure to sad British pop music and a total mis-reading of the movie 'The Graduate'. The girl, Summer Finn of Shinnecock, Michigan, did not share this belief. Since the disintegration of her parent's marriage she'd only love two things. The first was her long dark hair. The second was how easily she could cut it off and not feel a thing. Tom meets Summer on January 8th. He knows almost immediately she is who he has been searching for. This is a story of boy meets girl, but you should know upfront, this is not a love story"

First of all there's Zooey Deschanel. Second Joseph Gordon-Levitt. Enough for a good movie! Still, the way the story is told makes it extraordinary. It's twisted in a lot of ways, takes us on a journey that doesn't take us quite where we expect it to. Highs and lows, funny and sad. Tom (J. Gordon-Levitt) goes back to the beginning of his relationship after his girlfriend Summer (Z. Deschanel) dumps him. He tries to find where he went wrong within his 500 days of Summer. The movie makes you crack up and cry the next second.

Tom: What happens if you fall in love?
Summer: Well, you don't believe that, do you?
Tom: It's love. It's not Santa Claus.

I've seen this movie a few times now and I can tell there are a few more to come. Grab your best friend and some Ben & Jerrys and enjoy!

Kisses V 


Pictures:  www.fanpop.com/clubs/500-days-of-summer/images/15216717/title/grow-fanart 
collider.com/500-days-of-summer-review/

We Love... The Bookthief

 Finally I get to write something on my favourite books. My first all-time-favourite is The Bookthief by Markus Zusak. I must admit I read it in german but because it's originally an english book I assume the original version is even better.

 For all I know the book is not based on a true story but still inspired by true events: World War II. The story takes place in Munich, Germany. Young Liesel's brother dies on their way to Hans and Rosa Hubermann. She had to leave her mother behind because she was tracked by the Nazis. So Liesel starts a new life, alone with the not quite matching couple Hans and Rosa. She finds friends and lives a life as normal and exciting as it can be growing up during World War II. Liesel befriends Max, the Jew hidden in Hubermann's basement, survives bombardments and finds her way in the hearts of her new parents. What has the book's title to do with all this? Well, Liesel discoveres her love for books. The only problem: she can't read. So she trys to learn it. And as we all know learning how to read is a hard bit of work. And the books she reads are - who'd thought - stolen. Every book she posesses has it's very own and special story.

 You may think "WOW, another book about horrible WW II. Nothing I haven't heard or read before...". Sorry, you're wrong! The book is different than almost any book I ever read. Not only is Markus Zusak one of the most fantastic and gifted writers I know, also he gives the story a whole new twist by making someone very special the narrator: death himself. This may sound a little bit creepy perhaps but it's so beautiful to read. The whole idea to impersonate death and make him tell a story about a little girl living in a time where death is all arround is fascinating. The way the story is told is colorful, bright and comes to life the second you begin reading.



 The book is quite big which may seem quite overawing in the beginning but if you love storys that soak you in, storys that are told with words that draw wonderful pictures, than this book is a must-read for you!


Kisses! V

How to... add a little glitter

 I live in an almost total girls-household so everything seems to belong to everybody. That caused that I regularly can't find life-saving stuff, such as my tweezers. "Are these mine?" "No mine!" "Bullcrap...their Mom's" - on a daily basis. To avoid this I decided to make my stuff unique for example by glittering them up.
 Three easy steps to always knowing what's yours:

xxx V

We love... Pretty Sucks

Okay. Pretty doesn't suck. Maybe a little. In case your not pretty. There is nothing like not pretty! pretty is awesome! Flours are pretty. Trees. Roofs. Clouds. Rain. Citys. People. Pretty is everywhere. What else is pretty? This awesome brand called pretty sucks.
They make shirts and bags and a lot of other fancy stuff! Their quotes make me crack up every time.

Always be yourself. 

Unless you can be a unicorn. 

Than always be a unicorn.

 

prettysucks.

They sell over the internet and are a visit worth. Promise!

 rawr. 

It means "I love you" in dinasaur.

xxx V

We Love... AWKWARD.

Because it's so real! Awkward. is a MTV Show starring a High School teenager whose life is truely awkward.
 Jenna Hamilton used to be a quite normal teenager. Until she became "That Girl" that tried to kill herself. Accidentally. Adding up with the fact that she lost her viginity to the hottest guy in school and now having him as well as his best friend fighting for her make the whole situation arround the young blogger more awkward. What else is awkward? Let's see...

1. Her parents. They're kind of awesome. Far too young to be parents, what makes them kinda hilarious because they're a little swamped with all the responsibility and how to deal with the whole parenting thing.

2. Her BFFs. On the one hand we have Ming. A chinese girl who has trouble dealing with "The Mafia" because she's not a staight-A-student in contrast to all of the other chinese kids. On the other hand there is Tamara. All crazy, hyperactive and simply amazeballs! She has kinda her own language, parts of which you can check out on the pic.

3. The guidance counselor. She is...ineffable! Clogs and fannypack included. You have to see her!

4. Jenna's life. Of course!! All messed up with secrets, little white lies, gossip and random High School crap.


Summing up it could seem as if it's just another one of the random High School movies. IT IS NOT! It's down-to-earth and straight forward, hilarious and touching all at once. It's simply awkward.

You're welcome! V

How to survive a class Trip

Greece! 13 days, 12 students, 2 teachers.

You may have wondered why I haven't written in quite a long time. Now you know: I'm in Greece with my Greek-class. Yeah, right. I'm the freak who chose to take Ancient Greek instead of French. Don't ask me why! 

 The good part: the trip to Greece. Which I am on right now. It's an incredibly beautiful country, but as we all know class trips can get awfully exhausting. So here are my tips for surviving - no matter if you go to Rome, Greece, France or elsewhere!

          1. Don't you dare to forget to charge your iPod! You're probably going to spend a lot of time in the bus. And even if not: you won't sleep in a single room! So there are going to be talking, joking, annoying kids surrounding you close to 24/7. Also you need a soundtrack while admiring the beautiful scenery. 

           2. Feel free to make your free-time me-time! Of course you don't wanna miss anything. And yes - it's fun to explore new places with your friends. But you spend your whole day walking around cultural valuable places and have a lot to process. So nobody's going to blame you for taking some time of. You're going to be surprised how relaxed you will feel after taking an hour of alone-time!

           3. Take your most comfy shoes! Don't let your vanity win. Your feet will probably be white/ not as tanned as your legs BUT in a group of more than 10 people nobody cares about how bad your feet hurt. Plus tan lines make you look sportive ;)

           4. Let your evenings become unforgettable. Well yeah, you have a curfew. But still there is hardly any place on this earth that isn't amazingly beautiful by night. So - even if your tired - make the most of being where you are with whomever you're there. And even if you make use of tip #2 don't lock yourself up in your room. Go to the beach and count the stars!

          5. Take a sweater! When the sun goes down it can get real cold. Even when you had 36 degrees (Celsius) the whole day. Also the air conditioning in busses can make you catch a huge cold! 

          6. Try to be on good terms with your teachers. They will trust you. And if you wanna have fun even though you are on smallest space with the watchful eyes of your teachers better be nice. Or pretend to be. To be trustworthy is equal to possessing the key to freedom!

          7. Try 6. with your fellow students. It's not the same as in school where you have half of your day at home - you are trapped with these kids 24/7. Get to know them. Some of them are more interesting then they seem. If you have enemies now...check if your room's locked. Twice!

          8. Don't gossip! Or at least try to. Rumors spread way to fast when everyone's caved in together. And once again: beware of enemies...! 

          9. Choose your roomies wisely. No explanations needed, right? :)

Hope you have tons of fun on your next excursion! 

Kisses from Greece! V

We Love... The Art of Getting By

 This is what I love vacation for. You have time for things you truly want to do! For me it's for example watching movies that have been on my list for ever (I have lists for everything). My dad was nice enough to let me order some movies on amazon lately so I even got to watch them legally.
 Yesterday I watched The Art of Gettiny By, a wonderful coming of age movie starring Freddie Highmore and lovely Emma Roberts.


 Set in Manhattan the story focuses on George, a senior in High School who has trouble figuring out the sense of (his) life. We are all going to die anyways, so why bother with homework, graduation, college...? Problem here: his parents as well as his teachers don't exacly share his views. Instead of doing homework he doodles all of the time, everything and everywhere. His Books are full with monsters and a beautiful mess set free from his messed up mind. But one day he covers for a girl, somking on the schools roof. They get to meet and she seems to who understand or at least admire him for his view on life. Sally.

"

Sally: I have fears but I thought they were pretty run-of-the-mill: pain, death.

George: Not me. I fear life.

 Of course they become friends. She - beautiful, popular, openhearted - showes him - withdrawn, artistical, pensive - the "normal" teenage life and fun in life while he introduces him to his world of doodles and art and a lot of thoughts and worries. Naturally he falls in love with her.

"  

Sally: Are you okay?

George: I'm allergic to hormones.

Sally: What hormones?

George: My own.

 But he is shy and inexperient as he is he seems to screw it up. And she does too, kinda. Both overvelmed by their feelings drive through the rollercoaster of almost beeing grown-up. But only almost. 

"

Sally: You know we're going to be together one day, we just have to sort through all of our messed up issues first, and you have a lot of girls to sleep with to get out of your system.

 For me, a coming-of-age-movie-lover, it's one of the stories that give you this warm fuzzy feeling. You will smile. And then you will smile even more - because you realize you are smiling. 

xxx V

Dating is dead?! Pros n Cons on that shit.

 When was your last date? And I don't mean your last random hookup, one night stand or DVD night with your girl-, boy- or best-friend. What I talk about is a date like the kinda date you know from the movies. So? Ever? Nah.
 I recently read an article in my favourite magazine (NEON, german one) about the end of dating. Seriously, when I think about it, my whole life I thought this whole dinner-date was an invention made in Hollywood. But it seems like there used to be something like the two-some date some time before I got old enough. Sucks. If you believe in what this nice lady who wrote the article says. And a lot of other people who claim thereselfs to be smart and write books n stuff. So what exactly do they say? If you look arround your folks who are somewhere arround 20-something you'd think they seem to be happy and have relationships and sex and everything awesome that seems to be a side-effect of dating. Right. But: how did they get there? Apperently "our generations'" dates are happening in our peers. When you're on a party it's the most uncomplicated thing to simply invite your crush to join you. And that's what we do. INSTEAD of dating.

CON on that:

           1. Suppose you get invited by your crush to hang out with his/her friends. Are you
               a) not worth the time to spend alone with?
               b) in the Buddy-Trap?
               c) a set up for somebody's friend?
               d) what you hope to be?


PROs'd be:

          1. Your person of interest isn't as great as you thought. Oh great! You don't have to think
              of anything to get rid of him/her asap - it's a party!

           2. Completely practically: you can tell if he/she is any boy-/girlfriend material, given the fact
               that your crush is surrounded by your friends and you can check out how good he/she fits in.
               This brings us to

           3. 'cause on the other side we have YOU, invited to some party or random hang by your crush.
               You can check out the people your going (not?) to be partner likes to hang. Nothing says as
               much about a person as the people he/she spends his time with.


 So up 'till now it seems like it's not too bad to say au revoir to outdated dating rituals. Isn't this....so sad?
 I believe our "free spirits" and crap we claim ourselves to be is leading us to something completely wrong. Or at least not-so-nice. Our easygoing mentality makes us have more than one crush's (there is no plural existent for this word - realize something?). We have far too many opportunities. We spend our time trying to decide. Not trying to work on what we have.

CON:

            2. Will we ever decide? Will monogamy be an archaic word? I think we will drive ourselfes
                crazy with all of our choices and opportunities. 

            3. Letting the hopeless romantic speak for me: Where is the LOVE? If we don't take our time
                to get to know somebody, to earn their trust and literally learn to love them...will we love? I
                got this feeling that a lot of the kids from my generation mistake sex and physical attraction
                for what we call love. Count: How many of your friends got together with their (-sorry-)
                fuck-buddies or what you want to call them?



So is dating dead? Are we caught in our own dissolute lifestyle? Gett up guys, we're all so vintage and retro and thirftshop-y...why do we hang on to fashion and art but not to lifestyle and culture?


xo V