Why it was Mila Cunis who ruined our Generation.

To be clear: I adore Mila Cunis, she's one of the most beautiful actress of our time. But:

In the year of 2011 Hollywood surprised us with two movies of a very similar kind. Let me tell you a story:

Boy meets girl. Both sick of relationships. Both suffer of a lack of sex. Both very attractive. What happens? They end up in bed. No feelings, just sex. In the end they get that they actually fell in love and live happily ever after. The End.

One motto, two movies. Great! Truth be told, I loved Friends with Benefits. Basically the tragedy of those movies are/where that they had happy ends where both inividuals ended up realizing that they where deeply in love with each other. So more and more friends of mine told me about exactly this scheme in their lives. And there's tragically often no happily ever after included. So now, three years later I look around me and what happend? There's nothing but a glimpse of serious realtionships around me anymore. WHERE HAS THE LOVE GONE?


How girls stumbled in to this:

#1 GIRLS THAUGHT

Maybe, when we start making out and spend enough time he'll realize how cool and nice I am. I just have to let him think I'm all cool about it!

#2 GIRLS THAUGHT

Ok, surprisingly I actually am quite cool with this...if only he'd call more often...oh look there goes my heart...oh shit!!

      And - whoop - there you go: what start's of all easy-peasy screws with your head and heart and everything within a wink. It begins with a lot of things like relizing that he or you are jealous. Or by having real fun with real conversations. By knowing each other like no one else. And everything is just so simple. The moment you realize this is the moment it becomes harder.  Neither do you know about his feelings or not feelings, let alone the chaos inside of you. You don't know what you're at. He know's you're easy to get so it's too late for playing games. 

      Ok, I get it. Sex is fun and your last relationship was bullshit so you don't wanna commit to anyone and stuff. But girls, here's what I learned: The feelings are going to come either way. And your life is no movie! Those movies may seem more realistic than Cinderella, but that still doesn't mean they have anything to do with reality. Guys can sleep with girls without comitting to any feelings, while girls - trust me on this - can't. This may not apply to "It happened once...or twice." And maybe it takes some time but it will happen. Even super-tough Anne Hathaway in Love and other Drugs gave up her heart.

     What I want are the cheesy lovestories. I want to tell my kids about romance like my parents told me: by telling the truth. I don't mean flowers and candlelight-dinner twice a week. I'm talking feelings. Truth. And knowing, what you're at. Either you sleep around - totally fine! Or go all in for the real deal. If you have an "open relationship" it's easy to analize: Open for me - relationship for you. Or the other way around. Either way, there's no truth in it.

Love, V

To all my girls out there!

 A truely inspiring poetry slam by a young student. It's so true!!
Enjoy!

xx V

Lesson of the Week: DREAM BIG

Since I was a little girl I've had two dreams:

1. New York City
2. A career in fashion business

It sounds like every other girls dream. Well, perhaps it actually is. But there's one important thing: I didn't stop dreaming. There's hardly anyone who know's me and hasn't heard me talk about at least one of both. There's been a lot of admiration for dreaming so huge but over the last few years I could feel more and more people deride me. I come from a city where one of the bestselling brands is Northface. Seriously?!

People are scared of dreaming big. It's the fear of being disappointed. The fear of the dream not coming true. If you don't shoot for the stars you'll never learn to fly. And perhaps for some people it's better to stand with both their feet on the ground walking straight forward. If it comes to me, I'm the one with the head in the clouds. If fallen on my nose quite much so, while aiming to fly. But I never stopped dreaming. Ever. And - believe it or not - seven month from now The Infamous Diaries are going to be updated live from the Big Apple! Right: my big - actually huge - dreams are about to come true. After hours of application writing and re-writing and translating my resumee and searching for adresses over and over again and writing tons of e-mails with the largest amount of concentration in fear of spelling mistakes... I had an interview for interning at a fashion company's PR department on tuesday - and got the job!!

So get excited for the most amazing posts AFTER graduation-exam-stress is actually over!

xoxo V

 

We love... Beginners

It's 2003. Oliver is 38, single. His dad recently died of cancer. When his Mom died 4 years ago his dad - Hal - announced, that he's gay. They've been married since 1955, that makes 44 years. 

Hal: I don't want to just be theoretically gay. I want to do something about it.

Is what he says. And he does! He joins all sort of gay-communities and even falls in love. This is something Oliver can't say of hisself so far. That changes in 2003, the moment he meets Anna.

Anna: You can ask me anything you want.
Oliver: Anything? What's there?
Anna: That's a tree. And Cars. Another building like this one. People in the building like us, half of them think it's never going to work out, the other half believe in magic. It's like a war between them.

Anna is from France. Anna's an actor. Anna's beautiful. Unusual. Inspirational. Lovable. Human. Their lovestory is no Hollywood-lovestory. It just walks through the movie. It's usual and easy - it feels real. You don't expect anything to happen or not to happen. You just let them live. Their story is told concurrently with Hal's last four years before he dies.
Also from time to time we learn more about Olivers mother. She seems weird. Embittered. Self-determined. Loving but cold. I like her. she's true to herself. She's sad. More - she's melancholic. But she's a good mother. She doesn't lock herself into her room to be sad. She carries her frustration outside, lives it. I like her.

          Oliver: Our good fortune allowed us to feel a sadness our parents never had time for. 

   The movie's great, because it feels so real. You crack up, listening to Oliver talking to his Jack Russel. Watching Hal being gay in all that he is. Being truly happy this late in life. And just when you crack up most - you want to cry. About Hal's death. The tragedy of the family. Life. Unlike to most of the movies these days you don't feel like you've read the script before. It's unexpected. Just like life's unexpected. And it hides a lot of wisdom. Little maxims hidden behind some corners. Generationconflicts not screaming for attention but nudging in you're head.

Top 5 remixes

I love remixes! If I find a song I like a lot I listen to it non stop for a few days. So if I find a good remix of it it's even greater because the song I've heard almost to death comes to life in a new way.

1. Youth - Daughter (Alle Farben Remix) by majestic

2. Skinny Love - Bon Iver (Moritz Guhlings Gefühls Remix)

3. Little Lion Man - Mumford and Sons (Monkey Safari)

4. Give Me One Reason - Tracy Chapman (The Tailors Djs Remix)

5. Home - Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros (FlicFlac & AirDice)

Enjoy!! xx V

Crocodiles kill you, people make mistakes

A girl I suppose I used to be friends with recently posted a quote. It said

"Crocodiles are easy. They try to kill and eat you. People are harder. Sometimes they pretend to be your friend first."

Why is this important to me? Because I'm people. Even though I don't aim to kill anyone nor eat somebody. Duh! 

I'm people because I'm the bitch. I'm the girl YOLOing and realizing that people can't except if you're not perfect. I'm not talking perfect as in beautiful and skinny. We had the kinda stuff at least once too much. I'm talking perfect as in making the right decisions. As in being 18 years old and suddenly mature. I'm talking perfect as in choosing the right guys and making sure not to hurt anyone you know.  

So, sorry I'm not perfect!

But at least I realize that. And even try to apologize. In my way. But sometimes even your friends don't get it. And so they talk. Because they love to talk. And so they get hurt. That's how I became a killer. Also that's how I learned that your friends are those who aren't okay with your actions but still stick to you. Thank you, friends! 

In some peoples eyes I may be the killer. In others I'm only an imperfect young woman trying to find happiness...

Top 5 series returning this fall

I am a total junkie when it comes to series. Sadly (or good for my summer) most of my fave series take a break over summer... so here are my top 5 series returning this fall and when!

#1 and best: How I met your mother! 
 Season nine - the FINAL season - is coming up on 23rd of September. I hardly ever met anybody who doesn't like this series. If you wouldn't like HIMYM that would mean you don't love Barney's pick up lines, Lily and Marshall's hilariously adorable relationship, Ted's desperate believe in true love and Robins self-protection sarcasm...and that's only a glimpse of the awesomeness!

#2 New Girl 

 One girl, three guys, one apartment in Chicago. It's Zooey Deschanels charming nivity combined Schmidts narcissism, Winstons lostness and Nicks total being out of everything. On the 17th of September we'll learn the development of Jess & Nick's love-life and a lot more...

#3 Vampire Diaries
 Twilight almost achieved that vampires and werewolves were oh-so-middle-school-groupie-ish. Almost! The best and only savior of the coolness as well as the sexiness of vampires and werewolves are the stunning Salvatorebrothers. On the 3rd of October there'll be more Vampire-Hybrid-Werwolve-Sex, more love, blood and mystries...

#4 The Carrie Diaries
 I've already mentioned this lovely prequel to the beloved Sex And The City-Series earlier this year. On 25th of October it returns for season 3!

#5 Awkward. 
 A show I aswell told you about before. Jenna featuring Matty, Tamara, Jake, Ming & Co. make us crack up beginning 22nd of October this month. It's obvi going to be amazeballs! You're welcome.

 Hope you're as excited as I am!

 

Kisses V